How To Love Successfully
Saturday, April 5th, 2008 9:21 PM
How to Love Successfully?
In life, I have travelled a long hard path. Britain and British people have been a blessing to my growth; my past was like living in a psychic war zone. My present is where I want to spend my eternity. My Journey here has been one of seeking my identity, my place in life, and the search to find people to share my experiences, and give my humble wisdom, is a privilege and educational.
This deep longing for love, and to be loved, reflect the same kind of deep yearning of other souls, this yearning to share, redeem society of ills, by love, is as ancient as the land around us. No Soul seeks to live life alone, only evil does, if they desire to be left alone, because they are dealing with great emotional pain, we must learn to love successfully, grant them the wish, give them space, and return to them when they give us permission. To seek love, should be as easy as breathing. To desire ones perfect mate, is the dream of all.
However, everything that we desire in our lives comes with a cost. This is a fact that very few understand, and accept. Those who understood this universal law of giving, live a most gratifying, and blessed life of all its abundance.
In fact, there are destructive souls around, as well as angelic souls that I have been lucky to connect with, and I have also been approached by destructive souls who seek to undermine your gift of Love, who are so quick at jumping at a slightest human mistake you do, and rush to complain about you in an attempt to sabotage your reputation.
sometimes this is done out of their own confusion, sometimes they truly don't understand you, and lack of understanding, creates all sort of psychological distortion, they may condemn you, they may gossip about you, they may make false accusation against you, simply because they cannot understand your culture, your philosophy, and your unique psychology.
Sometimes, we are not supposed to understand these unique souls, rather than reacting badly to their complex nature, we need to step back, and ask a question , how can I love this person successfully even though I don't understand what they are all about, how can I do something that is good for this person? How can I do that one little thing for them to help them grow, and integrate in our society, rather than alienate them from our circle.
How is it possible to love successfully? Love is an art, and a successful person who has not mastered the art of loving, has not mastered his life.
When we entered into this life, we came with an open heart. The Child always loves, and we 're the loving child, when we were small. This ability to love, is part of our nature, and part of our identity.
In the family home, childhood traumas, with whom the father was not loving and giving, still exist, and changes the child's view of being open and loving. The view of the self is altered, damaged, and scarred by the views of those around us. When we become adults, we lose our loving spontaneity, we become too analytical when an act of giving calls upon us, we become fearful, we experience love as a threat, and it becomes painful, and tragically, leads to failure.
As we got older, we also became more careful, others become too cautious. We perceive each new person as a replica of our damaged past experiences. Eventually, we came to the realization that love really did equal pain, and entrenched the old childhood fears even deeper. At this point some of us remained the same, and some moved ahead, developed their spiritual side, psycho-sociological and philosophical view that allowed them to live and love successfully.
The ancient art of finding and attracting true love was always within us. Deep in our heart, in our child's heart, was the huge ability to give and to receive love fearless of consequences.
The first thing that we might have rediscovered about love, and about ourselves, is that we really are afraid of the very thing that we would give almost anything to find. Love becomes a scary affair because it revolves around the ego, the "me first syndrome'.
Let us dedicate our love to those who have a dream to pursue, the vision to plan, the courage to run, the expectation to perfect, and the perseverance and determination to empower those near, far, and dear.
Let us dedicate our love to those less fortunate, less able, the poor , the bedridden, the homeless, the orphans, rather than seeking fame and personal success for its own sake.
When we learn to love successfully, indiscriminately, and unconditionally, we mastered our lives.
Let me have the opportunity to serve you, the privilege to inspire and elevate you, but that can only happen when I have your permission to love successfully.
Many Blessings
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Andre Zizi is a caring friend, and is dedicated to those who have a dream to pursue, the vision to plan, the courage to run, the expectation to perfect, and the perseverance and determination to empower mind, body, and spirit, achieving optimum health, happiness, joy, energy.
Andre Zizi is a philosophy graduate,
Author - The Spiritual Psychology of the Science of Money-phology
Qualified teacher, and a writer
Independent neuroscience researcher
Mentor and counsellor with Neuro-Linguistic-Programming diploma
You may contact Andre by email: Andrezizi@hotmail.com
